Anointed and Adulterous-Dunamis&Sophia Okunowo

Hello friends and family,

Its been a while since the last post on Temperaments. I hope we all enjoyed it? i got comments from all over on this matter. I must confess that i'm not an authority in Psychology, i just share and recommend the little i have learnt.

However, today's post will be interesting,insightful and terrible! its aim is to open our eyes to the 'Endtimes' serial attack the devil is perpetuating: I came across this very insightful devotional from Dunamis & Sophia Okunowo club Kisses and Hugs club titled Anointed and Adulterous please enjoy:

http://www.kissesandhuggsclub.com/2013/08/anointed-and-adulterous-lessons-from.html?m=1

Personality Check: Personality Test WHO ARE YOU!!!

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Sorry for the mix-up on the former link. However, the link has been corrected.
Feel free to check if you are Sanguine,Choleric,Melancholy or Phlegmatic
Personality Check: Personality Test

Error of MAN by Heather Clark christiannews.com

Error of Man: The New Modern Family? Woman and Two Men Raise Son in ‘Polyamorous’ Relationship
Posted by exministries




By: Heather Clark, Christiannews.com

Los Angeles, California – ABC News recently aired a segment about a woman involved in what is called a polyamorous relationship — living with multiple boyfriends or girlfriends under one roof.

The woman, identified as Jaiya, began by living with her boyfriend Jon. However, because Jaiya wanted to have children and Jon didn’t, he suggested that she bring someone else into the picture that would conceive with her.

Therefore, Jaiya brought home Ian, and the two had a little boy together. Both Ian and Jon are raising the child, and Jon quit his job to stay home with him.

“I’m looking for what helps me to be the best human that I can possibly be,” Jaiya told reporters. “I stopped searching for ‘the one.’ I can have the one, and I can also have the one, and the one and the one.”

Jaiya works as a professional sexologist, giving sexual advice to others. She admits to having sexual relations with both men, and states that while Jon now wants other children, she does not.

“There’s a part of me that wants to go back to “That was MY girlfriend,” Jon said.

However, according to the ABC report, Jon is now looking for a second girlfriend, and Ian already has another relationship on the side.

Jaiya said that the family structure has taken a lot of new forms in recent years, so she does not see a problem with living with two boyfriends.

“What is the modern family today?” she asked. “We’ve got step-moms and step-dads; we’ve got gay parents raising children… The family today is a different thing than what it was years ago.”

Ian made similar comments when asked what he would say to those who believe his polyamorous relationship is immoral.

“Thank you for sharing your opinion,” he said. “We’re not here to convert people and tell people that monogamy is wrong.”

ABC notes that there are an estimated 500,000 polyamorous relationships in the nation. One viewer, named Anne, called the comments from other viewers who spoke against polyamory “hateful.”

“I’m in a poly relationship right now and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been,” she asserted. “I don’t expect other people to ‘get it’ right away or at all, but I do expect them to mind their own business if they don’t want to approach it with an open mind.”

Another viewer named Lisa admitted she also had a similar arrangement.

“I’m in a polyamorous relationship too, and they make it seem way more complicated than it is,” she wrote. “Monogamy is great, but I had thought we had finally advanced enough that non-monogamy can become a norm.”

However, some strongly disagreed.

“Arrangements like this never end well for all involved,” wrote one commenter. “This is total chaos.”

“It is adultery in God’s eyes,” stated another. “That is not a modern family. Family by God’s laws and standards is one man, one woman. Not two men [and] one woman, or two women and one man, or two men [and] two women. The rest is called by God ‘abomination’ and will not enter the Kingdom of God.”

“Doesn’t the Scripture warn about this for that one reason?”added a third viewer. “This can lead to psychological problems either in one or both men, or all three people. Even some problems in the child or children if there are more. America is out of control, and if we’re not careful, this country will [end up] like Rome. I think I can see what was one reason why Rome fell.”Error of man by heather clark christiannews.com-Two men and a woman raise a child under same roof

Are youLeading or Manipulating by Michael Nichols

 Are you leading or manipulating?

Most of us agree – leadership is influence. And there are times when influence morphs into down-right-out manipulation.



At it’s core leadership involves change. After all, what are we leading people to do? To be? Yet there’s a fine line between leadership and manipulation.

Both involve influencing others. Both attempt to persuade people to do what you want them to do. Both leverage vision, passion, and emotion to elicit a desired result.

So how do you know if you are leading or manipulating?


Pro and Con

To complicate matters, there are positive and negative aspects of manipulation. Manipulation can positively influence by skillfully treating with one’s hands or by mechanical means such as manipulating fragments of a broken bone into correct position.

More commonly, manipulation involves negative influence, especially in an unfair manner such as manipulating one’s feelings.

It’s this negative manipulation which goes beyond influence to controlling people and environments. Many manipulators live in denial never realizing they’ve crossed the fine line from leadership to manipulation.

Everybody’s doing it

All leaders, at one time or another, have manipulated those they lead. Many do it regularly. And most find it difficult to admit this tendency.

I’ve learned that healthy leaders regularly consider:

Am I threatened when my team members stray from the vision? How do I respond?
Do I have a tendency to shift things back in my favor?
When leaders acknowledge that negative manipulation is a real threat to their influence, they can take steps to eliminate these behaviors.

The reason

To determine if you are leading or manipulating, ask yourself: Why am I doing this?

Are you looking out for yourself or are you serving others? Are you following your own agenda or helping others to realize their potential and fulfill their dreams?

Your underlying motivation reveals whether you are leading or manipulating.

When selfishness or self-preservation are present, it’s easy to become a manipulator. Sometimes the behaviors are subtle. Sometimes they’re blatant. Either way, when leadership evolves into manipulation, relationships and organizations suffer.

So are you leading or just being manipulative?

Here are 4 groups that are negatively impacted by manipulation…

1. The Manipulated

Manipulated people become hurt, disillusioned, and discouraged. As a result, their ability to lead and perform at a high level is damaged.

2. The Witness

When we experience the negative influence of a leader toward a colleague, we become wary of all leaders. Maybe we shouldn’t – but we do.

Those who witness manipulation find it difficult to trust leaders.  They carry self-protective attitudes forward into future relationships. And this painful experience causes them to withdraw from healthy leaders who could positively influence of lives and work.

3. The Organization

It’s not long before the organization suffers. Collaboration, problem solving, and decision-making are all diminished.

The result? Inadequate decisions. Inappropriate behaviors. Poor performance. Over time manipulative leadership will threaten the stability of any organization.

4. The Manipulator

A manipulating leader will never reach their full potential.  They simply cannot grow and will never experience the satisfaction that comes from serving others.

And they deserve it, right?

Not so fast – he may be you! Every leader is naturally self-absorbed. Executive Coach Raymond Gleason said recently:

I’ve never met a leader who couldn’t benefit from more humility.

Question: How have you seen a leader manipulate others? What were the effects? How do you guard against